Not all dreamers are winners, but all winners are dreamers

Vinod Chandrashekhar Dixit
We all know that in life our character is a composite of our habits. The maxim goes like “Sow a thought, reap an action, sow an action, reap a habit, sow a character, and reap a destiny.” Small wonder some people glide effortlessly onwards and upwards at work, and so in life. They excel because of their distinguished and dignified habits. In order to make something a habit in our life, we have to have some basic principles often based on our own observations. Here are some important habitual traits that influence our objectives and goals towards a definite purpose in our life.
Be Proactive
It all starts with our self awareness that enables us to stands tall in the crowd and examines the way we ‘see’ ourselves. It leads us to see beyond, listen beyond and act beyond in any environment. It makes us understand that we are responsible for our lives. It denotes the most basic habits of a successful people, the habit of proactivity. One excellent way to become more proactive is to look at where we focus our time and energy. Being proactive means you should take care to put all your efforts in the circle of influence. You should nurture your energy towards fulfilling your own ability. Your proactive approach that teaches you to see things in new light helps you to break the shackle of all your problems within the circle of influence.
Begin with the end in Mind
Being a rational and disciplined being we plan everything at beforehand. We able to establish contact with our inner guidance system at the heart of our circle of influence. And thus starts the habit ‘to begin with the end in mind’. Simply put it is to begin today with the image, picture, or paradigm of the end of our life as our frame of reference or the criterion by which everything else is examined. This habit is revolved around the principle of personal leadership, which means that leadership is the first creation and it is very much important to lead our own notion and actions ahead. This habit also demands to approach to our principle roles in the family or in the business as well as our other roles in life, with our values and directions clear.
Put First things First
Whatever endeavor we take, first flashes in our mind frame. We see the possibility of its potential in the light of our own conscience. It is called mental creation that we cautiously integrate in our brain. There is second creation we call it physical creation. It is the exercise of independent will towards becoming principle centered. We are in a habit to put first things first by practicing effective self-management. Self-management that is the breaking down, the time-bound left brain aspect of effective self-government. The human will is an amazing thing. Time after time, it has triumphed against unbelievable odds. So be enthusiastic, give your will a thrust.
Have a Plan
Most of us don’t practice concrete planning methodologies for our works, and that is why we fail. To write success in our life or business, we must follow a definite course of actions- long terms or short terms. Long term plans can be easy to narrate, they are sensible and workable but it should be realistic and in tune with our capabilities no more, no less. On the other hand, Short term plan vary according to our time span and urgency. Both these plans should be devised to put into action and make them happen.
Seek first to understand, then to be understood
Communication is one of the most important skills in life. If we want to interact effectively with others, to influence others, we first need to understand them. “Seek first to understand” involves a very deep shift in paradigm. We often seek first to be understood. Most of us do not listen with the intent to understand, we listen with the intent to reply. When another person speaks, we are usually “listening’ at one of four levels. According to communication experts in empathic listening, we listen with our eyes and with our heart. We listen for feeling, for meaning. We can always seek first to understand. That’s something within our control. And as we do that, as we focus on our circle of influence, we really, deeply understand other people. We get to the heart, of matters. We talk with each other quickly. We give people the psychological air they need so we can work together effectively.
Set Personal Standards
There are state-of-the-standard rules and dictums. Then there are state-of-the-individual norms that we set according to our own ethos and envision. These norms are the reflection of our own being and remain our guiding force all through. Just jot down your own set of rules that you will try to abide by. We may need or have a better set for our personal conduct; it should bracket superior traits that comprise positive and proactive elements we need to network and nurture. We must endeavor to be the very, very best we can at all times.
Maintain Good Manners
Good manners make one perfect. Interestingly, most of us believe we have good manners already. However in reality, the more we hurry and the more we are stressed, the more manners are likely to slip. If we are honest, will admit to properly express gratitude for something when frazzled by life, or feeling a huge temptation to push in front of somebody doddery when rushing to catch a train. We should remember our own rules of manners, however rushed and fraught we feel. We should always make the efforts to show good manners. No matter how small interactions with people we have each day, don’t let the manners slip. They cost nothing and yet can generate so much good will and make everyone’s life that much more pleasant.
Be Cheerful & Positive
Life is full of ups and downs. Whatever life’s moments have in store for us, we can redefine them according to our own paradigms that teach us to be optimistic in every situation. Always be cheerful by putting on a smile triggers hormones. All it takes is the first few days smiling when you don’t feel like it and you will start a cycle going that will make you feel better all the time. It is a known fact that everyone likes a cheerful person who is relaxed, confident, and mature and dictates the positive vibes. People will want to hang out with that person more – there is nothing as attractive as a cheerful person.
Never Lie
Always tell what you believe. Tell what you know, no more, no less. It sets you into a mode when you don’t have to think twice. Never life. If you have a simple rule-never lie- You have a default setting that requires no thought, no choices, no decisions, no alternatives, no picking, no jeopardy and not sleeping nights. Never lie is really the simplest, cleanest, most honest approach to our working like and career. It stems from our habit of truthfulness. Always go by your principle of truthfulness. Experience life in the light of truth.
Always think Win Win
We often talk about win – win situation in life. With a win-win solution, all parties feel good about the decision and feel committed to the action plan. Win-Win sees life as a cooperative, not a competitive area. It is observed that when two win/lose people get together – that is when two ego-invested individuals interact-the result will be lost/lost. Both will lose. Therefore, the common alternative is simply to think win. People with win/win mentality don’t necessarily want someone else to lose. So, when there is no sense of competition, win is probably the most common approach.
Sharpen the saw
Accordingly to philosopher Herb shepherd our healthy balanced life revolves around four values: perspective (spiritual), autonomy (mental), connectedness (social) and tone (physical). “Sharpen the saw” basically means expressing all four motivations. Exercising all these four dimensions of our nature regularly and consistently in wise and balanced ways. To do this we must be proactive. Most importantly, as it lies at the corner of circle of influence, no one else can do it for us. We must do it for ourselves. The habit talk about taking time to sharpen all these attributes for an enlightening living, joyous in every aspect.
Synergize
Synergy means the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. Synergy stems from the creative process e pursue and it is also the most terrifying part because we don’t know exactly what’s going to lead. We don’t know what new challenges we will find. The challenge to follow this principle is to apply the principles of creative cooperative, which we often learn from nature, in our social interactions. As in life synergy is of much importance in the workdom of business. Once we have experience real synergy, we are never quite the same again; we know the possibility of having other such mind-expanding adventure in the future.