The Pendulum of Life

By: Nitish Keisham
People around the world have been facing problems, depression, heartbreaks, sadness, happiness and many other destructive emotions. Most of the negative emotions lead to a negative way or a negative path of life. It’s because people think in a dark way and underestimate themselves. We should know that when life puts us in deep and dark moments, we’re not being buried, we’re being planted and life is giving us another chance to grow. It’s giving us another head start and we need to understand that.
No matter how bad you were in the past, try to be a better person in life. People will always throw those past moments that you regretted doing on your face. And no matter how good you are, people will always try to find your bad side and weaknesses. And they will judge you and make fun of you instead of being grateful for the version you evolved into. Remember when you try to do good for others, for yourself, there will always be a thing called – ‘Society’ that judges you.
Your task is to not focus on those judgments. You need to focus on your life goals. Haters will always hate. Words that come out from a jealous and hateful person will discourage you in a way that you never expected. When these moments come, you need to have an attitude that doesn’t give a damn about those judgements and what the society says about you. When you master this attitude, you can easily face whoever or whatever that tries to pull you down. This attitude might be a bit disturbing to hear but the advantages of having this attitude weighs more and you can easily tackle the people who try to discourage you. Put a dot on white board and ask them to describe the things that are on the board. Believe me all the things they will say will be just based on that dark tiny dot. They won’t see the bright white surrounding around that dark spot. People seem to have a blind spot on beautiful things in life and just focus on those tiny, easily omit table things.
Something that bothers me a lot is that of why should someone be distracted by this hatred, Do they feed us? NO. Do they pay our college or tuition fees? NO. These people only know our names. They only know about our achievements and not what we have been through to achieve those achievements. Why should we listen to them then?
Easy to say but the reality is really hard to live with. In this doomed world, nothing will ever go as planned. We all need to live a little, not just making ourselves busy and focusing on those useless judgements all day – all week. If you think your plan of being a successful person is going to work. JUST DO IT. No need to wait for those free judgments to pass. They are just a part of the show. All the billionaires in this world suffered in ways that you could not even imagine. They even received hatred more than we do but they assumed those as a drop in the ocean and kept moving on.
It’s a piece of cake if you know how to finish the puzzle of living. Happiness is free, why should we worry? Speaking of the haters, we are all humans – looking down on others isn’t needed. We need to exercise the quote – don’t judge a book by its cover.
Coming to the end, spread love and kindness. Help one another as much as you can. We need to encourage each other and pass over those judgements and limber up to be a successful soul. Once you become a successful person, your haters will automatically bow down to you. You just need to trust the process. Good things take time. No one can stop you from doing what you love, no need to face the people who feel jealous in doing good for oneselves. Remember one thing – there is a beast inside you, wake him up, show them what you are capable of. Prove that you are nothing less than those extraordinary people. Prove that you can do far more better than those who keep their mouths running and nothing else.
(The writer is currently a student of The Oratory Academy and an ex-student of Emmanuel English Higher Secondary Academy, Yaingangpokpi, Imphal East)