Looking beyond ideal relationship for want of baby boy

By: Lalita
There are many schemes to encourage giving birth to girl child. Already many schemes like paying of few amount, or depositing of insurance for the girl child at the time birth has been introduced by the government of India. Beti Padoa , Beti Bachoa is the new scheme launched by the government. In a country like India the more the girl child are deprived the more new schemes were introduced for them.
In our state, Manipur , where women are uphold to the highest position, many parents are not happy until they get a boy child.
At many incident husband were compelled to marry another wife just because his wife could not deliver any baby boy: Recently a woman was finally forced to stay separately from her husband and in-laws in a village in Kakching district allegedly for giving birth to three daughters and not bearing a male child in eight years of married life.
This is not an isolated incident that happened in the state. We keep hearing about these cases on and off.
 In the land where women’s courage was the talk of every politicians or civil rights activist there are families or spouse where the girl child is murdered in the foetus. What a pitiable state of affairs!
The problem is also common in South Indian States too. A writer wrote, “We had a young attendant for my ailing mother at home and this girl whose name was Pothum Ponnu (Enough of girls). She was the fifth girl in the family and she was not perturbed by the name. But we were. She explained that it was common in their villages to name the girl thus to ensure that the next child would be a boy”.  What logic!
In the state of Manipur, it is not the husband which have the feeling of unsecure unless his wife have a boy but it was either the mother in law or the wife that were worried if they fail to give birth to girl child.
The issue of parents desire for baby boy has never been looked upon for a scientific solution so far.
Scientist or medical experts now finds that using chromosomes which lacks in male can be injected to fulfil the desire of the wife or family.
Men determine the sex of a baby depending on whether their sperm is carrying an X or Y chromosome. An X chromosome combines with the mother’s X chromosome to make a baby girl (XX) and a Y chromosome will combine with the mother’s to make a boy (XY). This is the medical explanation for the sex of a child.
The government, that is blasting all around with the need to build toilets, should bring to the public domain that it is the man who decides if the baby is going to be a boy or girl.